As the president of the University of Cape Coast chapter of the Ghana Fellowship of Evangelical Students (GHAFES-UCC), one of my responsibilities was to give an exposition of the semester’s theme to bring the members of the fellowship into alignment with the direction God was leading us. For the two semesters I was leading the group, our themes were about the second coming of Christ. The first was “Be Prepared for the Second Coming” and the second was “Be Heavenly-Minded”.
I do not quite remember how I did on the first exposition apart from a few glitches with an Obama-Osama analogy in which I kept jumbling the names up. My audience was kind and they corrected almost all the times I confused Obama for Osama or vice versa. During second exposition, however, I had an interesting experience.
About twenty minutes into my presentation, I started asking myself questions. Was I making sense to the fellowship members? Was I boring? What was I not doing right about the exposition?
Why all these questions?
There was no response whatsoever from the people who were listening – not even non-verbal ones like the nodding of heads. It was too early in the semester to attribute the dearth of reaction from their end to academic fatigue. It was definitely me. Something was wrong with my presentation.
But I could not stop the sermon in the middle because I was not getting the reaction I required so I continued. I tried some textbook methods to stir their bodies into responding to my message but none of them work. No amount of repetitive praise the Lords, jumping from one corner of the room to the other, saying jokes or singing the most spirit invoking gospel song was enough to cause a stimulation. Still, I could not give up. I continued.
Suddenly, I started hearing a voice of the back of the House of Prayer (where we held our fellowship meeting). He would respond to every praise the Lord with a hallelujah, when I said something that struck a chord, he would make a sound and my punch lines had him clapping. Even when I paused to catch a breath or organize my thought, he would encouragingly say, “Preach on!”.
The voice from the back was that of the Zonal Ministry Coordinator of the fellowship, Mr. Victor Gyabaah-Yeboah. He was the GHAFES full-time staff responsible for overseeing all the fellowships in the South-West Zone i.e. the Central and the Western regions of Ghana. It was very encouraging to have him in the audience and I knew his cheers and responses were not bogus. They were genuine expressions of encouragement that took me through the last forty minutes of the presentation.
It was great to have Uncle Victor as we all called him in my corner that evening. We all need someone in our corner.
It is a blessing to have someone in your corner. That person who reassures you when your confidence is beginning to wane. Someone who stands beside you come hell or high water.
Everyone deserves to have that kind of support.
It is always easier to achieve your goals if you have a few people standing in your corner. Not a lot of people, just two or three is good enough to remind you that you are strong enough and to keep you from turning around and running away from your aspirations.
I was blessed to have Uncle Victor that evening. Today, I can count even more people who stand by my side, cheering and urging me on. And I’m grateful for all of them.
Naturally, your family and very close-knit friends are the people who provide this kind of support. However, there are many instances where your family doesn’t have your back.
How do you respond to the people who are supposed to always believe in you telling you that you won’t make it?
I can only answer this question with my experience. I always pray that if my family does not stand in my corner, wishing me success in my endeavours, I should have at least one really good friend who I know will always be there.
But here is the truth you may not want to hear. A support system in your corner is key. That notwithstanding, the most important person you need in your corner is you.
It is nice if all your family members and friends lend a support to your vision but another truth is that you can get where you are going without the big crowd. And even when your small group of friends or that one person who vowed never to leave your side fails you, always know that you have yourself to count on. You are in your corner. The greatest disaster that can happen to you is you giving up on yourself because no one is supporting you. Don’t put yourself through that – at all.
I have learned to tell myself that no matter who I have or don’t have in my corner, one thing is sure. I have me (and of course God) and that’s all there really is.
In conclusion, no matter how large your corner is expanding make sure that you remember that no one can fight for that dream you have like you can. You must fight for your dream and you should do it regardless of whether you are fighting with a big crowd, with only one person in your corner or you are fighting for it alone.