“I believe the only limitations are the ones that we accept. I know that there is, in theory, a glass ceiling. But I don’t believe that it’s a solid wall. I’m going through it. Nothing’s stopping me. Yes, there are these preconceived notions; yes, we have challenges. Let’s accept them, let’s not be afraid of them, let’s break through them.”
– Debbi Fields
Growing up, we all had dreams and wishes. We wanted to be doctors, pilots, engineers and architects. We wanted to drive in flashy vehicles and build mansions before we turn twenty-seven.
Today, our dreams are synonymous to President Mahama’s promises which never saw the light of day. Life happened. We diverted, lost interest or failed to achieve our dreams. Many of us are still dreamers because no matter how life gets, no matter how old we are, no matter how many times we succeed or fail, dreams are things nobody can snatch from us or stop us from having.
While dreaming is inexpensive, not achieving our dreams cost us. Dreams are investments; they consume our bodies, spirits and, especially, our souls. If you doubt this, ask yourself why you get stressed out if you do not accomplish your dream? If you do not experience the kind of stress I am talking about, then you did not have a dream in the first place.
“Without leaps of imagination or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities. Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning.” ― Gloria Steinem
What is the point of dreaming if you will not do anything about it?
Dear Hard Girl, the difference between those whose are successful and those who are not is that successful people act on their dreams. For us, young ladies, we have an even bigger reason to act on our dreams i.e. there is a glass ceiling over our heads.
What’s this glass ceiling? Believe it or not, the society we live in has put some limitations on us with regards to what we can or should achieve in life. Generally, the expectations people have of our gender is lower than what they expect of the male species. It is unfortunate but true.
Many of us have unconsciously accepted this transparent ceiling that is over our heads. So, when we dream, we dream within the scope of the boundaries set for us. Or we let our minds run wild when we are in the world of imagination and back in the real, we chicken out of that wildness.
Enough of the wishes! It is time to act!
A wish without the necessary action following it is the devil decorated in make-up who makes being stagnant attractive. Like seeds, until you sow your dreams in the sands of hard work and determination, they will amount to nothing.
To be stuck under the glass ceiling is not a curse; it is a choice.
You wish to be an entrepreneur? Sister, put your ideas on paper. Think it through. Approach others who have made it and start walking towards your destination now. If you procrastinate, you will achieve nothing.
You will start your weight loss regimen tomorrow? Cut that crap and start now!
Your determination can get you the body size you envy. Your GPA will experience inflation only when you stop dreaming and start learning. It is not documented anywhere that dreaming alone makes one successful.
Sorry for the digression. Let’s go back to talking about the glass ceiling. With women accomplishing great things across the world and even in Ghana, has the ceiling not been broken through already? Unfortunately, no. All the accomplishments we have so far are only considered as cracks the ceiling – which is a good thing. This is because if we have more women doing unimaginable stuff, breaking their boundaries and not only dreaming but accomplishing them, we would have the needed momentum to shatter that ceiling which is a dark cloud hovering over our heads. Clouds that will not give us rains but makes us scared of what might happen if it rains.
Once again, I make an invitation to you, Hard Girl. It is an invitation to join me and the network of women across the globe who share the vision of bonding together to set a new agenda for today’s woman. This is the only way we can break the glass ceiling – together.
“A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together is a reality.” ― John Lennon
Dream big enough and work hard enough to ensure that it is easy for your daughter to aspire to become a CEO of a company believe it is possible. Dream big enough and work hard enough so that your daughter does not grow to meet the same demons you are fighting today. Your accomplishment is a sledgehammer going through this glass ceiling, weakening it a little more and setting it up for a big smash!
I agree with Debbi Fields in the opening quote. Let us not accept the borders that have been set for us. It’s time to make those boundaries non-existent. The boundaries are not unbreakable solids – they very much can be broken. So, do not get too comfortable with where you are now – beneath the glass ceiling.
Connect with the writer on Facebook: Able Delalie