Coming from an all girl Senior High school to a school where I had to share every breathing space with the opposite sex was unnerving. I wondered why there was no university which accepted females only. I would have gladly applied there. Life doesn’t always give us what we want. I had to suck it up and concentrate on what I came to school for; learn. Three years have elapsed and I am still alive. I have improved and I will not stop trying to better myself.
In a few months, I close this page of my life. My life in the university is a perfect example of an oxymoron. I have had my shares of ups-and-downs and bitter-sweet experiences. The joys, disappointments, discrimination; I experienced them all.
Today, I share a few lessons with you.
YOU ARE ON YOUR OWN
I graduated from taking instructions from a siren to having to answer to no one. This was one difficult transition. Irrespective of your age, race and gender, once you qualify to be in the university, you are considered an adult. Hence nobody dictates what you do, most times. You get to live your life as you please… but you don’t get to choose the consequences. You are responsible for your happiness.
GOD COMES FIRST
There are lots of things that clamor for our attention – academics, money, friends and family – but God takes over them all. He is the pillar that prevents everything from crumbling down. Lots of people dropped out of school. A lot of people have suffered one calamity or the other. God has been faithful to me.
BEING AN ISLAND IS SUICIDAL
In fact, it is impossible. Some bitter experiences made me reconsider my decision to be an island A typical incident was when I missed a mid-semester exam because my friends and I left immediately after the first paper of the day.
This is what happened: This fateful day, I wrote a Psychology paper. Right after the paper, my friends and I, the antisocial girls, took our bags and moved straight to the hostel prepare for the second paper – Christian Ethics. Unknown to us, the time had been rescheduled from 2:00 PM to right after the Psychology paper. How come we didn’t get the memo? To cut long story short, we missed the paper.
This was because there was no form of communication between us and the rest of the class. Fortunately, we were given a second opportunity the next year.
That was a turning point. It could have been worse but in all things give thanks to God, right? You might not be lucky.
LIFE IN THE UNIVERSITY ISN’T ONLY ABOUT THE GRADES YOU MAKE
This lesson I learned late. Life is also about the extracurricular activities you take part in. Life is also about friendships. A good friend once reiterated that to me a few months back. Life is about the connections you make now. That guy who always sits at the back of the class may be your ticket to the top one day. Make conversations with that lady who sits by you in almost every lecture class. You never know when you might need her services.
TAKE A CHILL PILL
The first year was a very bad year for me, academically. I was always stressed and drained. I had lots of difficulties balancing my personal, social (though I had none), spiritual and academic life. Things just didn’t seem to go right. I had my roommates, family and a handful of friends but they were not enough. I decided to look around. People were not struggling like I was. Well, that’s what I saw. So I sat, flipped through the pages of my life and pondered over what I wasn’t doing right. Then I realized that university life is a one day at a time affair. If you put too much on your plate, you will choke. I started learning how to live my life on campus without much stress.
CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY
It is proven that friends do not impact only the quality of your life but also the length of it. One’s friends are the exact replica of they are. Your friends represent your personality. Though one is entitled to have as many friends as they wish, one must screen them with a sieve of the aperture size of 40 microns. In my honest opinion, and from experience, the lesser the number of friends you keep, the better it is for you.
I can proudly say my threshold for tolerance has increased to the highest level. The university successfully samples people from all walks of life, diverse religion, political affiliations, nationalities, ethnic groups and temperaments. One has to compromise at some point to let peace reign.
I have talked about what the university has taught me so why state the obvious again, right? Apart from academic work, I have learned scads of things I would never learn in class. I always take advantage of every situation to add something new and beneficial to my life.
I leave you with this;
“No one lives long enough to learn everything they need to learn to start from scratch. To be successful, we absolutely and positively have to find people who have already paid the price to learn the things that we need to learn to achieve our goals” ~ Brian Tracy
Please, don’t hesitate to share with us what you too have learned from the university.
The writer, Able Delalie, is a student at Central University. Share the post if you were blessed to read it. Leave a comment if you want to encourage Able to continue writing great pieces like this